[According to vocabulary.com, an insecure person might constantly doubt their own intelligence. It also adds that in 1917 people began to use the word insecure to describe delicate, unsure egos.
While Urban Dictionary describes an insecure male will often be controlling in his relationship because he feels he is not worthy of having his woman and, therefore, fears she will find a better man. He gets angry and jealous if another man only looks at his woman in admiration. He will listen in on other people’s conversations to hear if people are talking bad about him, or will read his woman’s diary to see if she is betraying him. Insecure people will often insult or bully others to feel better about themselves. They will also lie about their alleged “success” to impress people.]
TRUE. An insecure partner will criticize you for trying to look good. He will reason by saying: You are a married woman. Are you trying to attract other men?
TRUE. An insecure partner will keep tabs on you. He will stalk you on your social media accounts mainly because he tends to be suspicious all the time. It’s only a matter of time until he forces you to give him all access to your email, calendar and social media accounts. He might even phone your office to make sure you’re really behind your desk.
TRUE. Inside an insecure person is a bully. Therefore, it goes without saying that being in a relationship with a bully puts you in a huge risk of getting bullied by him as well. Should it be in the form of verbal abuse, isolation, financial control, physical abuse …or all of the above. Keep in mind: There’s one thing that bullies hate – LOSING. When they feel they are at a disadvantage, they will go ballistic and do anything they can to win. Anything. Anything at anyone’s expense…except theirs.
TRUE. An insecure person can easily make up stories to give you a good impression of himself. For example, he may claim that he is a police officer when in fact he works at a gas station. He may even brag about his material possessions to you to make you believe he is an accomplished individual. He may also brag about his successful friends because he wants to be associated with or accepted by successful people. He may brag about the professions of his family, tell you they’re kind-hearted- to trick you into thinking and believing that he had good breeding, when in fact he is despised by his very own family! Keep in mind: This type of person will never forget all the gifts that he had given you … and everytime you fight, he will take them back, telling you HE had bought them and that you didn’t deserve them after all.
[Moving on to Narcissism, Psychology defines it as an extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one’s own talents and a craving for admiration. Psychoanalysis, on the other hand, states that narcissism is self-centredness arising from failure to distinguish the self from external objects, either in very young babies or as a feature of mental disorder.
Moreover, Wikipedia defines Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) as a long-term pattern of abnormal behavior characterized by exaggerated feeling of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a lack of understanding of other’s feelings. They often take advantage of the people around them.] *courtesy of Google
Based on the three definitions, there is a common keyword: SELF
Therefore, the mind of a narcissist is concerned about the SELF only…most of the time – his happiness, his goals/dreams, his physical wellbeing, his possessions, etc. All things HIS. He sees himself proud, very strong, smart and popular. In other words, HE is his own biggest fan. He may have a tendency to be too opinionated and critical due to his delusion that his opinions are above anyone else’s. And Yes, he may tend to be very critical … don’t be surprised when he always has something bad to say about everyone. A narcissist is too obsessed with himself to even recognize his own character flaws.
[ A Sociopath, categorized as someone with an Antisocial Personality Disorder by Goggle, is the ultimate predator, exploiting and abusing the weak, the innocent and the ignorant. He lacks empathy. They see others merely as objects for use and have no qualms about manipulating or exploiting anyone or any situation to their advantage – get what they want. They may prey on an individual, a family, an institution or even a whole country. They have no conscience and feel no remorse when they’ve done something wrong. They feel justified in every aspect of their behavior; often blaming their victim and believing that they brought it on themselves.] *courtesy of Google
TRUE. A sociopath is like THE WHOLE PACKAGE! All in one – insecure, narcissistic and abusive.
And you don’t deserve him. Get inside his mind – it’s a useful, powerful way for you to counter his bullying…without having you needing to take up karate classes (you might still end up battered and defenseless). Worst case scenario – dead.
Two choices: Stay and Die or Leave, Stay Away the farthest as you can and Survive? Leave. Get help from the authorities. Coordinate with the Law. Stay with people you trust.
For once in his life, let him taste defeat.
Keep in mind: A bully will do anything to harm. He will constantly threaten you. Don’t give in. Your best weapon is SILENCE.
(You may also want to read on my blog site 🙂
* Finding Enzo
* Enough Is Enough
* A Closer Look Into A Toxic Relationship And What It Takes To Get Out Of It